Just this week, I realized that this Mother’s Day week marks the anniversary of several of my life’s biggest transitional moments. Seven years ago this week, I found out that I was pregnant with my one and only miracle baby. And although I was not a big fan of pregnancy itself, I could not have been any more blessed to have been given the opportunity to become a mother to the most phenomenal little girl ever.
It was a year ago, this Mother’s Day week, that my family and I moved into our new home. It took us 11 months to build the house with a big side order of daily stress and countless sleepless nights. However, it was a moment in time that changed our lives for the better in so many different ways. We LOVE our home and more importantly, our amazing neighborhood. This was a life transition that was worth all the headaches that came with it.
And it was also this week, three years ago, that I officially launched my own photography business and Kathryn Deane Photography was born. As I reflect upon these major moments in my life, it has got me thinking about life and how you get through all of those times without being completely overwhelmed by the stress of it all. There are so many questions that go through your head in those times of major change in life. I find that these are the times when you most want to call your mom and have her tell you it will all be alright. Some of us have the immensely good fortune that we can still pick up that phone and hear her voice on the other line. Others of us cannot make that call, which is truly heartbreaking. For some reason, even as adults, we all long to have our own mother tell us that everything will be okay. For better or for worse, our mothers have been there with us, whether it be in body or only in spirit. They have protected us, listened to us, supported us, and loved us unconditionally. And now that we are older and have become mothers ourselves, we find that now we are riding that daily roller coaster of parenting…hanging on for dear life…just hoping that we are doing the right thing for our children too. We want to be everything for them. But it is often so tough to balance what they want with what they need. And as a result, we now know what it was probably like for our moms. They struggled too. They were exhausted too. They loved us so much that it completely consumed them. They gave everything and usually did not get much in return.
So I think that it is so important for us all to take this Mother’s Day week and let it be a time to remember and reflect. Remember your mom and the other motherly figures in your life. Call them, if you can….or even better, go visit them. If you believe in God, thank Him for having given you the time that you’ve had with your mother… and if she is still alive, pray for more time. Mothers sacrifice everything, whether they are amazing moms or not. Just bringing you into the world is a sacrifice in and of itself. And if there are any husbands out there reading this, take a moment this weekend to really look at the woman who mothers your children. Think of all that she has given you and all that she continues to give to your children. She may be a feeling a little grumpier or frumpier than she used to, but that is only evidence that a)she is giving it her all and b) she needs some more time for herself. Remember to celebrate your moms this week. Celebrate your wives as well. Spend some time telling the moms in your life how much you appreciate them. They would give anything to hear it and it will mean more that you could even imagine. Oh, and it also wouldn’t hurt to throw in any or all of the following:
1) If she has young children, take care of them all day and suggest she do whatever she wants to. This will be the greatest gift of all, I promise.
2) Make/buy her three good meals: breakfast, lunch, and dinner that she doesn’t have to cook.
3) Spend at least a good thirty minutes, uninterrupted, just talking to her and listening to her….I know, that can be excruciating for some people, but it will be greatly appreciated.
4) If you can, give her a really good back massage or buy her a gift card to go see someone who can.
5) If you really want to score an A+, you could even throw in a gift card for a family photo shoot with her favorite kids ….wink! wink!
And to all my mama clients who have made Kathryn Deane Photography what it is today, I thank you all for allowing me to capture the beautiful moments that you are making with your family. I look forward to many more years of documenting the evolution of your families and the special events that you will remember for a lifetime. Happy Mother’s Day, ladies! Enjoy your weekend….and may you all be blessed with an entire day of appreciation, love, and pampering this Sunday!
Here are a few of my favorite mother/grandmother and child photos that I have taken over the past three years:













